Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Are You Solving The Right Problem?

Several years ago, someone, possibly me, possibly my dad, and even possibly my dear hubby, put a pruning pole at the far end of the rail that holds one of our garage doors in place. It was a good place to put it because it didn't get in any one's way. It didn't get in the way of the operation of the garage door. It wouldn't cause anyone or anything any inconvenience if we hung it there.

So earlier this week, dear hubby called me at work and said "You hung that pruning pole on the garage door?" and I said "Maybe?!?! I know someone hung it there like years ago." And he said "Well it goofed up my door."

Now get the picture...If you are in the driveway looking at our house, his door is on the right side of the garage and the pole was hanging on the back part of the rail on the right side of the door. OK?

When I got home that night, we went out to look at the 'problem' that 'the pole caused'. We were looking at that rail where the pole had been hanging, when dear hubby said, "See, look over here at this side (left side), look at what it's supposed to look like."

That's when I saw it. Saw the real problem. I said "Honey, the pole didn't cause the problem with your door. The spring is broke on this side."

And, of course, his humble reply was "No, it's nnoooot!"

And, in my loving and non-judgemental way I responded "Honey! Yes! It! is! LOOK! See this coiled up part of the spring? It supposed to be connected to that other ring of coil right there!"

And his reply was "Huh? Really? Yeah I guess so. Guess you'll have to call the garage door people!" And so this morning I stayed home a bit longer waiting on the repairman to repair the real cause of the problem.

The moral of this story is not "don't hang poles on the garage door" and it's not "wives are wiser than their husbands." The moral of this story is that if you look in the wrong place for the source of you problem, you will apply the wrong answer.

If your problem is drinking and you look at your kids and say "if they just behaved better, I wouldn't drink," you are looking in the wrong place for the source of your drinking. Fixing your kids won't help, fixing your heart will.

If your problem is an unfaithful spouse and your look at their 'lover' and say "if that cheater didn't come after my spouse, we'd have a happy home," you are looking in the wrong place for the source of the infidelity. Fixing the other person won't help, putting our Loving Lord first in your family will.

What problem are you dealing with today? Have you identified the true source of that problem or are you still looking on the wrong side or in the wrong place? Will you ask our Loving Lord for guidance and direction to help you find the real root cause and trust Him to lead you to the right solution?

Deuteronomy 4:29-31 (The Message) But even there, if you seek God, your God, you'll be able to find him if you're serious, looking for him with your whole heart and soul. When troubles come and all these awful things happen to you, in future days you will come back to God, your God, and listen obediently to what he says. God, your God, is above all a compassionate God. In the end he will not abandon you, he won't bring you to ruin, he won't forget the covenant with your ancestors which he swore to them.

1 comment:

Susan said...

Great post! And you're very right..it's all how you look at it.

:-) Susan